Kindness, quality of a Vaisnava

Verse 1.7.43: We know what happened before this, Ashwattama killed all the sleeping sons of Draupadi and Arjuna bound him with ropes.
* Draupadi is showing her woman (kind hearted) nature and asking Ashwattama to be released.
* She was acting on the sentimental platform only. Here Srila Prabhupada comments that Ashwattama was offered the same respect as offered to his father. It was so because generally the people accept the son of a brähmana as a real brähmana, by sentiment only. Factually the matter is different. A brähmana is accepted on the merit of qualification and not on the merit of simply being the son of a brähmana.
Eg: Judge's son is also a judge. This is not the case, similarly for a brahmana
* Another example of woman being simple: Sita devi, being in a vulnerable state, she puts herself in trouble.
That is why, women should always be protected. There is this one quality, if shyness is gone, then it is always dangerous for them.
* Srila Prabhupada also comments that a Guru can be rejected if he does not fill the qualifications of a Guru. Eg: Shukracharya being rejected by Bali Maharaj, because he was giving the right direction to him.
* At the same time, we need to know that being kind to everyone is a Vaisnava quality (one of the 26 qualities of a Vaisnava). So sastric way, what Krishna and Arjuna were doing was right. But in spite of that a devotee can tolerate all tribulations personally but still such devotees are never unkind to others, even to the enemy. These are the characteristics of one who is a pure devotee of the Lord.
Eg: Lord Ram accepting Vibhishana into His camp.
* We need to go to the state of a Vaisnava, from a brahma-bhuta stage.